There’s a reason why a man and a woman say “I do” when they’re standing at the altar, holding each other’s hands as they look longingly into each other’s eyes. Marriage is a choice. There’s no magical sense of fate, no belief that this person is the ‘one right person for you’ because it was ordained that way. The fact is when you meet someone, fate can only take you so far before you actually have to make the choice yourself on whether or not you want to make the effort toward a lifelong relationship with that person. It all ends toward you.
Let’s put it this way: when God created marriage, do you think He meant it to be a temporary fix that only He set up for us? Maybe He just wanted to keep us out of trouble, out of fornication, out of sexual craziness, and marriage was that ‘fix’ we apparently needed. The truth is we don’t really have a choice in the matter, correct? We’re supposed to get married, and that’s that–it’s for our own ‘good’.
Wrong.
God doesn’t want to control us. As a matter of fact, that’s the one thing He had hoped for us: our free will. Without it, Adam and Eve wouldn’t have fallen from His grace. And believe that He knew it all along, too; he was willing to accept that truth. We have our own minds; we can make our own choices like we do while choosing right online degree programs or else. There, friends, lies the power of love: the power of choice. If there wasn’t a choice in our lives at all, why bother? Why create us?
That is why most people need to look at marriage from a different angle. It’s not about finding the ‘right’ person; look at it as simply choosing love. Focusing on that will find you a person that makes you and that person right for each other. That’s really all it is: a choice. You want a true marriage, think of it that way; after all, you “do” want a marriage God intended. If so, you may kiss your spouse. Congratulations!